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Friday, 17 February 2012

7 Easy Steps to Whole Body Orgasm - David Cates

I enjoy David Cates' blogs...he doesn't beat around the bush...although some might find his forthrightness quite offensive.

He tells it from a male perspective.

Deep Masculine

1. Open ALL your pleasure circuits.

Yes, the cock has 4,000-24,000 nerve endings (depending on size and circumcision). We like that. (Esp if we haven’t been circumcised.)

But the entire body has over 3 MILLION nerve endings spread over 20 square feet of skin. You have 10,000 taste buds and 40 million olfactory receptor cells. That’s not even counting muscles, eyes and ears!

Face it, you’ve been listening to the music of sex on blown-out, tinny junk speakers, when you could be enjoying a surround-sound 6-channel home-theater-quality experience. Why settle?

Open ALL those sensory receptors!

2. Relax!

If you’re tensing up during sex and speeding to get to the finish line, your pleasure senses are shutting down. Seriously. This is incredibly counterproductive.

Rapid breathing and tense muscles signal danger and trip the nervous system’s fight-or-flight response. The body races to ejaculate so you’re ready to fend off an attack.

Your system is flooded with survival hormones designed to make you paranoid and aggressive.

(Imagine what that does to the emotional connection with your partner!)

3. Slow down your breathing.

This reverses the fight-or-flight signals to your sympathetic nervous system. Ahhhh! In a few minutes, your partner will start feeling less like an enemy – and more like a lover.

Slow breathing will allow you both to sync up and move into shared experience.

The breath is the largest and most controllable pulse in your body. Steady breathing brings all the other pulses (from heartbeat to biochemical arousal to quivering desire) into rhythmic coherence. It’s like the steady drummer who lays down a groove that all the other instruments then dance around.

When you breathe in rhythm with your partner, you’ll automatically fall into love. Instead of being slammed by those paranoid-aggression hormones, your bloodstream will be swimming with the biochemicals of bliss.

4. Turn off the mental porn channel.

If you’re narrating a porn scene in your head, you’re distracting attention from the ACTUAL sensations in your turned-on body.

Not to mention the ACTUAL human being you’ve gone to all the trouble to get into your bed.

Why bother having sex if you’re only going to rerun the same tired fantasies in your own private mental theater? (See Step #1: don’t settle for second-rate speakers.)

Unplug your chattering monkey mind. Open your eyes and enjoy what’s in front of you.

The more sensation you can feel in your body, the less those second-hand thoughts will even register.

Yes, it’s possible for real sex to feel better than porn. But you’ve got to get out of your head and into your body for that to happen.

5. Pay attention to your senses. All of your senses.

A relaxed body, breathing slowly and deeply, will tingle with limitless sensations. The slightest movement will roll through solid flesh like waves. You’ll remember why sex can be better than drugs.

The more you focus on your body, the more fresh and unexpected your experience becomes.

It’s true that men are wired to seek variety. The mind says we need a fresh partner… but when you turn up your senses, you’ll open to millions of brand-new sensations. What’s been stale is not necessarily your partner. Maybe it’s your own dull habits of perception.

Feel your fingers, toes, individual hairs, sounds, smells, colors… first your own, then your partner’s.

Welcome to the world, my friend! It’s a lot bigger than your head.

6. Forget about your cock for awhile.

Cock-focused stimulation can get you off too fast. Or keep you from noticing her.

Instead of peaking early, and trying hard to get back in the game, let your body take you up a series of steps. Each step becomes a new plateau, better than the last, more open, intense and ecstatic.

At each step, open up another sense. Spread the wealth around. Sight. Sound. Touch. Taste. Smell. Amplify your attention to that new sense.

At each step, spread your attention away from your cock and toward your extremities. Shoulders, hands, fingers. Knees, feet, toes. Face, ears, hair…

If you slow down instead of speeding up when you get close, you’ll remain on the delicious edge of cumming. You’ll be matching your partner instead of beating her to the finish line.

You can play on these plateaus for as long as you wish, until you both decide to roll on into orgasm.

7. Let sex be a truly shared experience.

Instead of being trapped in your own head, or focused on getting her off, imagine your whole body (head to toe) dancing and moving with her whole body. (See photo of entangled snakes, above.)

Breathe deeply and slowly to relax those bodies, and open up new areas to pleasure.

Include the genitals and usual erogenous zones, but don’t linger there. Spread your attention everywhere.

Talk about what you’re experiencing and exploring. Appreciate her body and her touch.

Slow down, drop out of your head and into your senses.

Take each other to new plateaus. Keep pace with each other.

The more you both sync up, the closer you’ll feel. The more your bodies will pulse together, and feed each other’s pleasure.

When you finally cum, your whole body will tremble.

That will open up and activate even MORE pleasure circuits… and in no time at all, you’ll be rolling through whole-body orgasms.


Anonymous said...

I enjoyed this KP.
Yes .. he doesn't `beat around the bush' ( I had a giggle there .. good pun :-) )
I love what he said about imagine your bodies dancing. It is a dance ... a dance of pleasure and love. One of the most powerful and joyous expressions we have to play with... and also a doorway to other worlds.
Much love

Karen-Pallas said...

:-) I didn't realise I'd written that pun...hehe...do I have a one-track mind or what?
Every so often I've asked hubby to consider writing up his experiences...but no ways is he even considering venturing onto that slippery slope.
The dance of love and life in pure pleasure.
Hugs to you, M

Anonymous said...

`slippery slope'

( soz KP .. couldn't help it )

Giggly hugs & a sideways bum

Karen-Pallas said...

Hehe...you crazy woman, you...had me in fits of hysterical giggles. Giggly hugs and...sideways bum indeed :-)
I feel a mad moment coming on... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xetdrQX9Xoo&feature=g-vrec&context=G27b561fRVAAAAAAAABg

Karen-Pallas said...

Erk...annoyingly I cannot download anything or create proper links.

Anonymous said...

That was great!
I will no longer be able to listen to anyone's music without imagining the older brother who lives in the attic who actually writes all the songs.

3 Sideways bums & a cock :-)
<3 <3 <3 !

Dorothy said...

hahaha you two!

I was going to add this thought...he speaks exactly what I spent ears trying to get my husband to understand. No luck, I gave up, his process involves two areas and an end goal. Not satisfying at all!!
If my man was as journey involved as this guy, it sure would be a different experience.

Hugs, and a sideways bump to you!

Karen-Pallas said...

Haha...what other body parts are there? I betchya been practising hey...hey?
Hubby and I started years ago sending messages to each other by text and then it moved to facebook...once I had a minor heart attack when I realised that the whole world and its dog could read the messages...I'm useless on FB as it is so confusing but luckily turned out it was a false alarm...phew! Blushing blushing...hehe...but we did/do have fun.
Here's to the brother who lives in the attic :-)

Karen-Pallas said...

Hey Dorothy
Ah well...you are kind and loving to you and that's what counts.
How's the heavenly ME time going?