Pain, guilt and suffering

I was asked the question – why is it so difficult to make changes? There are several levels to the question as well as the answer.

On the physical level there is the brain and the body. Within the brain it is necessary to change the synapses of a particular habit i.e. imagine we started off walking through the jungle and had to hack our way to create a path. With use that path became a large footway and over the years turned into a small road then became a highway. This is pretty much how a habit forms. Through use it becomes a highway. Changing that habit means hacking your way through the jungle to create a new pathway and it starts all over again. Sometimes it’s just easier to climb in your car and use the highway than pick up a machete and hack your way through the jungle.


Around the physical body are the subtle bodies i.e. the etheric body, which is the blue print of the physical body, the emotional body and the mental body. Each cell within our body has these subtle bodies as well. Imagine within each cell you have a negative emotion stored – hey, even if you only believe in living this lifetime there is a lot of stuff we pick up. Our bodies have been created in perfection but we tend to store our imperfections too. Imagine if you will the negative emotions or the imperfections stored are germs (or bad bacteria) and the perfection or positive emotions are the white blood cells, soldiers or good bacteria. We need both to exist. For the most part they live in harmony but when the negative outweighs the positive that’s when the fight starts.

Then there is the emotional and mental levels. Guilt is reflected in the pain we feel. Anger is the heat or fever. Fear is the cold shivers. How many times have you experienced the above. The pain of saying no makes you feel guilty, flushing with anger or shivering in fear. These are not just sayings – they have a basis in truth. Every single symptoms we are faced with is our body trying to balance itself to be in harmony but our negative feelings tend to build and build and overwhelm the body’s natural mechanism of righting itself and creating harmony.

And no, I’m not saying that you need to go around wailing about your life and being completely dramatic about everything. What I am saying is that you need to take note of when you’re feeling out of kilter – listen to your body and take time out. Carrying on regardless is not doing yourself and your body any favours.

This is where it is so important to spend time with yourself and doing things that you find soothing and relaxing. It’s not being selfish, it’s being clever. What help are you to those around you if you are falling apart?

I and the Universe hereby give you permission to love and pamper yourself – and no, you don’t have to feel guilty. After all wearing yourself thin and running yourself ragged is not treating yourself with respect ‘cause you’re literally giving your body the finger. Not very nice is it?

Maybe that's why laughter goes such a long way to healing.