tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4483637266259909720.post3011369670739040192..comments2023-08-13T12:49:02.870+00:00Comments on Love and Happiness: Catalyst for changeKaren Cottlehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00760436832184298779noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4483637266259909720.post-74423214373101021012012-07-07T11:33:00.134+00:002012-07-07T11:33:00.134+00:00I so understand that `reflection' thing. I had...I so understand that `reflection' thing. I had that when we were at Marseille airport and were waiting behind a NZ couple. The female was all over the place ... really not that pleasant .. and I found myself loving her .. really sending her so much love and compassion and most of all understanding from my heart to hers. She seemed so edgy so scared .. and yet was attempting to cover it with such bravado ... and I really had compassion and understanding for this .. as I had also been like that at one time myself. It is a NZ thing I feel ... this outer shell of bravado covering up a vulnerability and a fear. I have learned to remove that shell ... it takes some courage to do so .. however I have been able to do it here and also with my husband's help.<br />I have such a compassion for people who I see who have that outer shell ... i understand it.<br />It is a learning experience .. and I, like you, am so grateful to Britain .. and its energy and all that i have learned while being here.<br />Thank you too Karen ... we are learning a great deal from each other .. I agree.<br />Love to you and your husband .. and so much gratitude as well.<br />((hugs))<br />EilenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4483637266259909720.post-66725629443332802652012-07-07T11:07:30.171+00:002012-07-07T11:07:30.171+00:00Indeed we are all catalysts.
My issue has been to...Indeed we are all catalysts. <br />My issue has been to agonise over what has happened and wondering how I could have done it differently - I have documented this quite a bit over the last year and a half. <br />Today the knowing resonated within my mind and body and helped me to integrate the knowledge that in any given moment what has happened is okay and to let it go. There is no right or wrong.<br />So being here in Britain has been good for me to understand the difference between my own issues of judgemental outspokenness and that of someone needing a gentle nudge. For this I thank the British with gratitude for helping me learn and understand the fine line between the two. <br />Hehe...I found myself about 6 years ago talking to a 'fresh' South African woman who made a comment that ruffled my feathers...until I realised that I was on the receiving end of 'myself' reflection. <br />South Africans simply say it without malice as it is the way they see it. Hubby has not lost that at all whereas I have learnt to temper it with compassion.<br />Since I have been connected heart to heart with him, I find I have to take a step back because he is me and I am him, so his strong forceful personality comes through. Yikes! I am understanding that on the flip side he is receiving my compassion and gentleness...so we balance each other out.<br />Interesting times for us...especially with this strong heart connection.<br />Thank you, Eileen sweetheart - we have learnt much from each other.<br />Hugs<br />KPKaren Cottlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00760436832184298779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4483637266259909720.post-75566078501027149952012-07-07T10:04:09.118+00:002012-07-07T10:04:09.118+00:00I prefer vegemite :-)
KP ... we have had our `diff...I prefer vegemite :-)<br />KP ... we have had our `differences' and I love you for it. Personally I enjoy authenticity ... even if it may smart a bit at the time. I also understand that thing about strong reactions ... and learning to temper things a wee bit with a gentler energy. Some of this has come into play while being in Britain , where this kind of `authenticity' is not usually looked upon that well ... it can be misunderstood ..and at times it can be a challenge to have a deeper connection with someone because of it. However ... sometimes when I go back to NZ I am reeling by what people just come out with ... it is all about the balance really isn't it. Knowing when to say something ...knowing when to let someone go and have their own experience.<br />(( hugs))<br />EileenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com